I knew someone would respond this way, and I do understand why. I've heard it a lot.

But, my T and Pdoc have never said they don't want me having a child with my fiance. They did, however, tell me that I need to be aware of the situation and put down boundaries. I have discussed these boundaries with my fiance.

No one can predict the future. But there are many scenarios that can be played out. Everything can turn out okay, he could go to therapy and better himself, I could choose to be a single mom...

The dynamic of my relationship with my fiance is much more complicated than "he's an abuser". My Pdoc did say I should have left when he broke my elbow. My T agreed. But since, they are actually supportive of me staying in the relationship. It would take too long to explain it. But as abusive as my fiance can be, he is also someome who is beneficial in my life.

I wouldn't dare let anyone harm my baby, nor my dogs. I take fully responsibility for making sure they're happy, safe, and taken care of. And just as I am in therapy to keep myself accountable for my life, I would also have other support to make sure I'm accountable for my baby. One example: postpartum depression. I hope I don't experience this, but there's an extremely high chance. My family is aware of this. So if I do experience it, they know that they will have to carry some of the responsibilities for me.

I probably didn't explain myself enough. And while your concerns are legitimate concerns, it is only a minor factor in my decision.