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Originally Posted by JaneTennison1
sorry mybe the written word isn't clear. My point is that you use language like your dream being taken away but it isn't taken away it's a choice you have made ( a good one I'd say) so rather than grieve your choice being taken away maybe grieve what you are giving up for this relationship.
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I did understand in both your replies. No need to apologize. I just didn't respond to that part.
I just don't think I've made it clear that my relationship isn't making me give up on getting pregnant. My Pdoc has concerns about my fiance which is why she wanted me to discuss boundaries with him. She would also like him to go to therapy. But those are not requirements. In fact none of their advice were requirements. I already have their support to get pregnant. Also, one of their advice is to start DBT. I also agree with this (if it's possible). But I believe that waiting is the best choice for me right now. Do I know when the right time is? Nope. But I know it isn't right now.
But it doesn't take away the pain. And I don't even know how to describe the pain. But it's there and I need help to lessen it so that I keep myself safe.