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Originally Posted by Claritytoo
One of our alters suggested during session that we pick a host. In the past no has wanted the responsibility or the amount of work involved. We do have someone who can be in the world, is kind, is smart, and a good problem solver. I don't think she can physically protect herself from danger, we are not sure if she can get to know all of us. Most of like when she is out because she has a calming way about her. I don't know if she drives. Has anyone here asked a particular alter to be the host? If she says no it's ok. She wouldn't be in trouble. But how would she know what a host does? My t said it would help us to have one alter who new the system and all the parts in stead of groups were not everyone knows everyone. Although I am not going to want to know the others I think I would be ok talking to a host who knows the others. This all sounds like a convoluted mess but I would be interested in anything anyone has to say.
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I've read it both ways where the "host" is the physical body or the "host personality" leads the body, but mostly as a "leading personality". Looking back at "my" life, I can see where different alters ran the body for periods of time stretches, chunks of months or years where one or another was in control. I can tell by the varying lifestyles. Even today I'm living life through an alters personality chosen 'leader'. Back then it was an up for grabs thing. As a unit we didn't care.
But now we are all working together, most of us that is, for the betterment of the body. There's a few in here that still want to raise hell, but we try to keep them tied down. The original is still a child and never grew up. I don't know how that's going to go, but any how....
I'm aware of the alters today more so then back then. We didn't care because we weren't suppose to live, for some of us that is. Being medicated today helps with the physical depression.
Even though I'm leader for this time, we still switch depending on the situation and coping skills needed, but I'm put back in charge when the crisis is over. After 40 years of living, we all need to get along.