I'm not sure what it means and i'll put this into the "consider it later when I have perspective and or the looking for trends bin" But I find it vaguely wrong to consider my relative issues in the category of relationships.

My brother and I are going to visit tomorrow just so we do not risk feeling guilty about it twenty years from now. At the first sign of drama/manipulation/exploitation we have decided to leave. As cold as it sounds the bar for being part of my life right now that I am trying to enforce is no manipulation/exploitation.