I am unhappy with the way therapy is going with my new t.

I can't quite put my finger on it. I want her to elicit more from me. I can ask her to elicit more, but I need to explain what I mean when I ask for it. I can do so by giving an example of a situation in which I would've wanted her to elicit.

Here's part of our previous session. Her cellphone rings. This has happened once before. That time I thought she had forgotten to turn it off. So now it rings again. I say the ringing of the phone reminds me of a dream I had. I tell her the dream. [That we're sitting in this room and a woman comes to the door. Within a few minutes the room is full of people. I leave the room and go to the waiting room, where she meets me. I tell her this doesn't work for me. She promises it will never happen again. ] I tell her that last time her husband knocked on the door, in middle of session. And another time I saw her adopted child leave the house (She owns her home. Her office is on the first floor with its own entrance and her home is on the second floor with its own entrance. Entrances are side by side.)
I tell her there are so many people here and I find it overwhelming. The husband knocking on the door, the cellphone ringing, it's too much for me.

She immediately offers an interpretation, ''You're not sure you're being taken care of, whether you're a priority or not''
I interject, I say it's not about being taken care of, I don't see you as taking care of me, it's just that there is so much of 'you' here, and I want it to be about me.

I'm bothered by something. My experience with my previous t was such that when I shared a dream, her response was, ''what does it mean to you?" It was always about me. She asked about my thoughts, my feelings, my experiences, she elicited a lot. And it worked very well for me. It's what I like.

Now, I can ask my new t to elicit more. I can tell her that when I tell her a dream I find it more helpful if she helps me express myself more.... But then I begin to feel like, who's the therapist here, she or I? I feel uncomfortable 'teaching' my t the 'skills' I think she ought to have! Letsay I tell her that next time I share a dream she should not jump to offer her interpretations....when she will ask me, ''what does it mean to you' it will seem so artificial to me...It will not feel like a genuine interest on her part....just her 'talking the talk'...

Sigh.