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Originally Posted by Little Lulu
I agree with hvert. Perfectionism is a state of mind that undermines all aspects of our lives - school, careers, relationships, etc. It also is something we use to hide behind to keep from going forward.
Perfectionism also made grad school a struggle for me, so much so that right after graduation I developed some health problems I don't think I would have had otherwise. Yet, I saw classmates go through grad school putting forth much less effort than I did and they ended up with the same piece of paper I have.
I am now in my late 50's. What I am learning is that if you don't ease up on the perfectionism when you are younger, you will be forced to when you are older because you don't have the time and energy to put those kind of demands on yourself and you no longer see the logic in it!
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I never realized just how much perfectionism can halt our lives. I'm 22 and I've always been a perfectionist, to a fault. It has caused me a lot of trouble. I was the goody two shoes with perfect grades in grade school, but I started experiencing huge bouts of anxiety after age 13. The anxiety actually turned into a "disorder", I never had OCD or anything but it manifested itself as social anxiety instead. My life can be paralleled to the Rapunzel story, only I'm the one locking myself in my tower.