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I do not think that cancellation for lack of work or attention during the week is a good thing....as could there be something that you/I are avoiding or something that might happen within the session. Those sessions can be quite productive.

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Thanks, SG, for your thoughtful response. ((((hugs)))) I'm not much of a "homework" person, but I do work on therapy in the off time in my own haphazard way, and usually make progress. And I am working on stuff myself and definitely want to see T individually about that. (I have both individual and couples sessions scheduled for next week.)

But I feel like my husband and I haven't worked on stuff for our upcoming couples session, and it seems stupid to go to that when we haven't done a thing, which is partly due to our being busy with other stuff (life goes on at its typical crazy pace when you have 2 kids, work, out of town absences, etc.), and perhaps partly due to avoidance. Maybe I don't actually want the couples session to be "productive" until I know what I want to be the outcome? And more processing on my own and discussion with my husband is needed to know the desired outcome, rather than time in therapy with husband and T? So it seems like maybe it would be more fruitful to have the session later? I don't know. It seems so much, to have these two types of sessions, but both are needed. Sigh... Man, I am mixed up. I feel like I can't begin to make sense of the couples session when I have so much stuff about the relationship happening on my own and need to see T individually to help get unmixed up so I can then do more couples work.... Our couples session is scheduled one day next week and my individual the following day. Wish it were reversed. But even if it were, that still doesn't mean the couples work has been done.... Bleah.

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Also, I wonder about how people talk of being connected...that this sudden stop and go would not facilitate a connection...at this juncture.

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My connection would probably not be affected since I will see T on my own. But my husband has seen T with me only twice, and I guess it would be wrong of me to do something that might impede his own growing connection with T, wouldn't it?