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Originally Posted by SallyBrown
I'm glad to hear you're working on it. I hesitated to respond because I don't want to derail your thread, which is really about something else, but I just hear a fair amount of myself in you (I even said something similar to my H once, about leaving if I didn't think he could be there as a dad) and so wanted to say something.
Either way, I do hope you talk to your T about this -- perhaps with plenty of warning that you may have a full breakdown and you will need a lot of support to keep that from happening? -- because it's so important. And I wish you luck on your journey to becoming a mom. As I told some friends who have been forced to wait for their own reasons, you're ALREADY a good mom, by thinking so much about what is good for your baby, before you even HAVE your baby.
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I didn't feel you were derailing my thread. I'm glad you posted your experience. It gives me hope. I hope my fiance can change his life. If he knew how to cope with his stress and if he'd learn how to communicate when he is emotional, our problems would be so minimal. So I hope that my situation turns out similar to yours.
I also just didn't want people to concentrate on my fiance. He is a part of this, but it's not really something in my control so it doesn't help to process that aspect.
I just want to make as many good and healthy decisions as I can. There are no perfect answers nor timing. There will always be risk involved. I just don't want to completely lose the opportunity. I mean, if I could see the future and it showed that the "perfect" time to have my child would be in 10 years and that I would have a child...I'd wait the 10years. No problem. But I can't see the future. So if I wait, I might not be able to physically get pregnant even with assistance. There is adoption like Crook32 reminded me. It's just so difficult. I just want the best that I can give to a child. It's no dream to become a mom and then mess up your child's life. That would be the worst thing I could do in life. It would be my living nightmare.
But again, I'm glad you did write me your experience. I'm more than happy to take any type of hope I can find. So long as there's hope, I will continue to fight for my dream.
