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It basically means being real in your contact, saying what you mean. I am sorry you are struggling too Tonga Lee and soccer mom.
My heart aches to be understood, I feel t does understand me but she wants me to find my own voice and to ask for what I need. I find that so hard. T works very hard but she never complains or gets mad. I just wish that I could tell her that I want to be close to her but I can't.