Hi, onyx, & welcome, from another newbie! I could use a little of your hypomania right now, if you want to send it to me - I've been near the bottom of the pit way too long, myself!
fogboxer, sounds like it's time for meds. It's nice to be able to have your needs work with what your mate wants, but I'm afraid your husband's just going to have to live with this. And, face it, since you've been hiding your moods from him, he doesn't know what you're really like now anyway. That may be the way to explain it to him, in fact, if you choose to explain it before the fact. Probably better to continue to keep the sexual indiscretions in the closet. It wouldn't do him any good to know about them, and would only hurt the relationship, unless you knew absolutely that he was going to find out about them from some other source anyway. Hope things get better quickly.