Ill be honest , I haven't read all 9 pages of this, so If I'm repeating advice please forgive me.

As far as Therapy goes, You can look into your local community mental health services , they work off a sliding scale. I went for months , my portion was 5.00. You can find such a small amount of money to help yourself find ways of dealing with her ridiculous actions.

Personally I would just stop talking to her at all , Zero talking. easy? hell no. Will she scream and yell and basically blow a fuse and act like a flipped out toddler because someone took away a cookie. ? Yes that's a pretty much given. Eventually she will run out of fuel. Just simply become mute and hopefully deaf to her nonsense.

Until your able to break away from her desperate hold on you, remind yourself daily that you are a wonderful person and there is an end in sight.

I do agree with , Getting a new bank account , setting up a post office box. Ask for paperless bank account info, so only you will know what monies you do have.

You can make small changes over a few week, reasonable obtainable goals. Each goal you complete is going to help build up your self worth and esteem.