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Originally Posted by Koko2
You're not that old. It's possible to go without sex for a few years. Maybe you'll just have to hunker down and do a 5-year plan for financial independence, or 2 years if possible. Just be serious about it and don't spend wastefully.
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I've already hunkered down a long time already without sex. It's just the shear fact that it's part of the conversation; why my Mom thinks she has a say in my sex life is just so inappropriate, emasculating, embarrassing, creepy and simply none of her business. She just can't seem understand that.
Regarding finances, I've been working on a plan when I've been able to over the last couple of weeks. I'll be the first to admit that I've been irresponsible with my spending over the last several years, which is one of the reasons I've got the debt that I do, and why my Mom has been helping me out in that department. And I have a lot of stuff, stuff that I'm going to now turn around and sell. It's never hit me harder than it has now; what's the point of all this material
stuff; I'd rather have nothing (except the bare essentials - a place to live, transportation, clothing, food) and have my girlfriend back.
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Originally Posted by ~Christina
As far as Therapy goes, You can look into your local community mental health services , they work off a sliding scale. I went for months , my portion was 5.00. You can find such a small amount of money to help yourself find ways of dealing with her ridiculous actions.
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One of my good friends found a group therapy talk. I'm plan on going once it starts up again in the new year, and it's free!
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Originally Posted by ~Christina
Personally I would just stop talking to her at all , Zero talking. easy? hell no. Will she scream and yell and basically blow a fuse and act like a flipped out toddler because someone took away a cookie. ? Yes that's a pretty much given. Eventually she will run out of fuel. Just simply become mute and hopefully deaf to her nonsense.
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I've already stopped talking to her, only when I absolutely have to, and with "yes" or "no" answers. She's knows I'm angry with her, and she figures it's a game, but it's not. I truly am angry and upset with her, and I don't want to talk to her, I have nothing to say to her anymore after all of this. I guess I'll just have to wait and see how long I stay like this, or until she breaks.
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Originally Posted by ~Christina
I do agree with , Getting a new bank account , setting up a post office box. Ask for paperless bank account info, so only you will know what monies you do have.
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Already working on it. I've already switched some of my stuff to come paperless, which she doesn't have access to. I already have a post office box that I use for work purposes, and I'll start getting stuff sent there. And she doesn't have access to my bank account; she can deposit, but not withdraw. Even though I should know better, I called my cell phone provider yesterday to see if she was able to get access to my account info, and she can't. Like I said, I knew she most likely couldn't access it, but I do feel better knowing that she really can't. Changing my passwords to all my stuff, etc. It's definitely helping by doing these things.