Nobody is saying don't miss him or you wont miss him. That's normal, we don't just suddenly become robots when we're ready to break away from a SO.


We're saying, move along, move forward, close this door so that another may open.

I shudder to think how many opportunities for a happy, healthy relationship have just gone by you in the past 10 years. Relationships based on trust, mutual respect, loyalty and love. Opportunities that most likely went unnoticed by you because you've been too caught up in playing a role, acting as if this relationships works.

From what you've written it seems most likely that the energy you have been using to make this look and feel like a worthwhile relationship is actually more than the effort it will take to get over him... life has SO much better to offer you. Really