I could have written this post myself, although me and my guy have only been together about 3 ½ months. We've only known each other for about 4 months or so, but it feels like we've known each other forever. We communicate really well as well. He seems to instinctively know how I feel at any given moment and is the first person I've ever known that instinctively knew how to act/what to do. I have bad anxiety and am very emotional/sensitive (maybe BPD, who knows…) so there's little room for error. And yet he just seems to know what to do most of the time (even better than I would know).

We're both in the same field (different specialties, although similar) and met at the beginning of the school year as we were both starting our doctorates at the same time. Our strengths and weaknesses seem to match up as well…if one of us is not so good at something, the other person is great at it.

He's pretty much the first man to make me not be ashamed to be female. He's the first man to treat me like a person and an equal. I think he might be the first man to actually be physically attracted to me. Or at least to make it known to me.

And I don't feel like I'm idealizing the relationship either…I mean, we do have issues that may take months/years to fully resolve, but they're all sort of cosmetic if you will…ours diets are radically different, and neither of us have much experience so sex doesn't quite "work" the way it's supposed to yet (I'm curious as to whether you've run into any similar issues or if these issues are completely unrelated). Neither of us have had long-time steady employment despite our level of education/experience. He had a great job for a while, but they fired him. He sometimes says things in a mean way (I think that may be related to Asperger's?) or at least it seems mean because I'm so sensitive. But to his credit, he never means it that way and always sincerely apologizes when I point out to him that what he said (or did) seemed mean to me.

Also, at the moment, there's an issue with the fact that my feelings developed so strongly so quickly. I mean, I've felt ready to say "I love you" for a while (and I have said it once), but he's not yet ready. On one hand, that makes a lot of sense because of the short amount of time we've been together. But to me, it feels like we're soul mates and have been together for a long time and I do seem to feel everything more strongly than most people, so I guess the feelings of love developed very quickly within me. I understand his hesitation, but I just need reassurance that he won't dump me the next time I get really depressed/suicidal or just become annoying/do something wrong because of anxiety or my emotional issues. Or because of MY sexual dysfunction. And no one has ever loved me, so I want to believe I'm lovable...