People always say "be yourself", but we unfortunately don't live in a world where everyone is valued for merely being a human being. We live in a world where people are valued for being intelligent, talented, charismatic, good looking. And in the case of girls judging guys, it's even more harsh. If you do not have those qualities, girls get annoyed by you even trying to be friendly towards them. And modern society is pretty feminist so it likes to promote the idea that whoever women choose not to associate with is somehow flawed because a woman's judgment is perfect. So even if you decide to leave women alone and focus on video games or something, you get shamed. And of course guys like my asshole brother who are more popular with girls are always there to be bullies on behalf of the feminists.