I must say i am totally impressed by the progress you have taken!

I must, however, disagree with your decision to stop going to the pool. I know you may feel embarrassed at first, but isn't that better than being further isolated? Not going tells people that 'she' has won. Do you really want that? If you can't go because you don't want to, then go because she doesn't want you to.

Every revolution begins with a tiny act of defiance.

I am still concerned for your safety. Your mother is in a desperate situation mentally. Desperate people do desperate things. But this your life; so i'll stop now.

As an aside, i read off the BBC website

"The law on domestic violence in England and Wales is being changed to include 'coercive and controlling behaviour'.

Prosecutors will now have to take into account emotional and psychological abuse, which could include refusing access to money and controlling many aspects of everyday life, like friendships and hobbies."