This is something I rarely do - but I actually agree with the therapist on this one. I do not believe anyone can force save any other adult. They are making choices and so are you, in my opinion. Their choices are theirs to make and one does better to focus on ones' own self. I do not believe this is the same as not caring about others. One can both care and realize that the choices others make are their responsibility just as your own choices are yours.