that you wish you didn't know? Being in therapy has helped me see how bad my marriage is. Before therapy I really had so sense of self or personhood and lived to please other people, including (mainly) my husband. Now I see how unhealthy some of our dynamics are and how much they hurt me and it's really hard because the more I try to change and find my own voice, the more my husband resists and the more complicated our relationship becomes. I know I'm making healthy changes for me, but it's made my marriage very hard. Has anyone ever experienced anything like this? How did it work out? I love my husband very much and want our marriage to work in spite of the current stress. FWIW, my husband is emotionally closed and in denial about their being any problem with anyone but me.