with me there was no controlling my alters. they were just doing what ever their job, purpose reason for being was. but I had to understand even though it was an alter acting out we all had to take responsibility. in the normal world having mental disorders is not an acceptable excuse for bed behavior. some places have laws that allow less strict punishment for when mentally ill people act out but thats not on the internet. the internet has no laws and standards like the outside world does. on the internet all you can do is explain what the problem is and then let the others who found the behavior offensive decide for their self whether they want to stay friends with you or not. if not you move on, just like off the internet if people dont want to be your friend you cant force them. all you can do is do what you can right.