I think a DBT group is a great idea even if it isn't exactly what you want to do. I know Group therapy isn't always something f people get enthusiastic about, sometimes due to a previous negative experience or just fear of the unknown. But the reality is that it's generally very effective - even more so than individual therapy. But like any therapy, it's about finding the right match. Once uou have that it should fall into place. It's good to get outside of hour confort zone and a lot of meaningful stuff can get done in a shorter amount of time than regular therapy. You might find that your dreams will change as you gain more stability and confidence. I commend you for really being thorough in hour thought process. So many people are self centered and are more concerned about how much they want a baby, not about how this baby's life is going to turn out.