So.... you sold two properties, and still needed to put the new place in her possession? What on earth did you do with that money?

And yes, she sure does think that this is just a phase! It's why she will keep trying and trying. It's why she won't give up easily at all - she knows your ENTIRE past is giving in to what she wants, so why would it change now? Sure, a little rebellion is expected.... but it doesn't mean she will think you can squash her. Which is why each time you cave and give her what she wants... you're hurting yourself. It tells her that she can win, and that it IS just a phase, and if she keeps it up you'll eventually see "reason" (her version of it!) and come around and stop your rebellious behaviour.

Of course, what you are doing isn't rebellious. It's logical and normal to want to grow apart and have your own life. She just won't see it that way.

So keep strong, no matter how badly you want to cave.Goodness, cry into your pillow or go join a gym and beat the crap out of a punching bag or something... but don't let her see it. Lie right through your teeth in regards to that.. don't let her see anything that she might see as a sign of you caving in to her will.

Honestly, it's hard. And she'll never fully give up that control. And I say this as someone who did that separation quite early - I was still in highschool when I started. By now, the relationship I have with my mom is on my terms.... I share what I want, and don't respond to prying. Sometimes I seem like a b*t*h but I honestly do it just to keep myself protected. And it maintains a boundary - by now, my mom knows not to pry to much or I simply will leave the conversation. I share what I want to, and the less she asks the more I'm likely to share. Why? Because I know that the more I share in respose to a question/demand... the more she'll question/demand/feel entitled to. It isn't fun. You can do it!