In a way I have also noticed things in our marriage that may not be the greatest. Hubby and I have always had a great relationship. We both tend to protect each other even if sometimes that mean we bury things within our self. My therapist expressed that she feels that we often protect each other too much. Early on I felt like she really tried to change it. However, she also is amazed how good of a marriage we have after 20 years even though it is not perfect. She has commented that she couldn't make her marriage work so she has never pushed to hard. When she has tried to encourage things I have been uncomfortable with I have mentioned that while it may not be the best way to handle things, it obviously works for us as neither of us can ever imagine life without the other and are happy with our life together. So she usually backs off some while still encouraging healthy changes...