I know I keep saying I am not responsible for others feelings, but I had a word with my eldest D because she ran around after her dad left saying he's gone. We had a long discussion after he left again.He must have heard her saying how glad she was that he gone. He had a sad look on his face, Earlier i offered a quick safe Christmas hug but refused to kiss him. I keep trying to get him to realise I am trying to be polite and there is nothing in these hugs.
I can help feeing respomsible for his feelings. I am probably doing more harm for everyone.