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Originally Posted by Lauliza
I think a DBT group is a great idea even if it isn't exactly what you want to do. I know Group therapy isn't always something f people get enthusiastic about, sometimes due to a previous negative experience or just fear of the unknown. But the reality is that it's generally very effective - even more so than individual therapy. But like any therapy, it's about finding the right match. Once uou have that it should fall into place. It's good to get outside of hour confort zone and a lot of meaningful stuff can get done in a shorter amount of time than regular therapy. You might find that your dreams will change as you gain more stability and confidence. I commend you for really being thorough in hour thought process. So many people are self centered and are more concerned about how much they want a baby, not about how this baby's life is going to turn out.
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Thank you. I am trying my best to put a baby's needs first even now. If it's btwn having a baby and repeating the family cycle or not being a mom, I choose not being a mom. I do not want to mess up my child. I know there's no such thing as a perfect mom, but that doesn't mean that I don't have to put any effort in. This will be the most difficult and the most rewarding thing I can do in my life. I'm not going to go into it blindly. I am going to be responsible for a human life, not a pet, plant, or object. But there's the issue with time due to reproductive issues, so it's difficult deciding how long I can wait. If I had all the time, I wouldn't mind waiting up to another 10 years. But realistically, I might have already waited too long.
And about DBT: I had bad experiences with every group I've been a part of, and I had bad experiences at county. I don't get to try to find the "right" group. County is my only option right now as I can't afford the other ones. And I might not even be able to go to county.
O guess I'm frustrated because I keep being advised to wait. There's always something else I should do first. And I want to follow my treatment teams advice. I know that they have the best intentions for me. But I've also already waited a year following advice. I know it's my decision, but it's not an easy decision. I'm just trying to do what's best for me and a possible child.