I can relate to this issue Sunrise. I see my T for individual and couples. Because couples therapy always seems more tactical to me than individual it always seems like I should have accomplished/practiced/processed more in between sessions. But like you've experienced, that is not always possible. With two people involved there is even more chance that life is going to interfere in progress. I have a couples session in 1 1/2 weeks and I also feel like I won't have accomplished anything we talked about last time before I go. But, I have been in couples for 1 1/2 years so this has happened before and I know that even if we haven't made progress from last time we can still go and work with our t. She'll help keep the momentum going so that maybe next time things will have moved forward. Or maybe it is important to understand why we haven't made "progress" a priority since our last session (I think I'm avoiding issues and T will pick up on that).

I can also relate to your comment about feeling like you need to work through things individually before you can make progress in couples. This has happened to both my husband and I because we have individual issues that we work on privately with our T's. Right now I wish I could just put couples on hold for a couple months and work on myself. But, I don't think that would be fair to my husband. I think that even if we aren't visibly making progress in couples, it is probably important to him that we at least still go and take baby steps forward.

Sorry, don't have any great answers for you Sunrise, but I really can relate to what you're going through.