I'm not married but in therapy I got a totally new perception of things after being numb for so long. I though that some things I went through were no big deal and that my superficial relationship with my family was a good one. Then I started to want to go deeper and process painful things and while i have a new insight that I am grateful for, my relationship with my family is kinda ruined. I think I will get better and it will be definitely worth the effort - but limbo is not nice and this transition period that therapy has put me in can be really painful at times.