I think I'm hypersensitive to touch (I also have other sensory issues). I don't know exactly what I feel when touched but I don't like being touched unless I'm the one who initiates it (which doesn't happen that often). Otherwise it sort of feels like people invade my personal space, the touch feels suffocating (don't know how else to describe it) and I feel like I need to get away from the situation. This is a big problem in my relationship to my boyfriend since he's a person who needs hugs and kisses etc. Our needs clash and even though we both try to compromise it's really difficult to manage this. I actually talked to him about it yesterday (he started the conversation) and he even cried a little because he feels like physical touch is missing from our relationship (it's not entirely absent but he doesn't get as many hugs as he'd like) and he's scared he won't be able to deal with that in the long run.

I really don't know what to do. I care about him and I don't want to hurt him but at the same time I don't know how to change. I don't know how to not feel like my personal space is invaded when he (and other people) touch me when I don't want to be touched and I don't know how to get rid of the feeling of suffocation and discomfort. I don't know how to do that.

Need some advice. Any of you got any suggestions on how to solve this problem?