i can see why you might feel resentment. When you can't just turn off the feelings of depression, hearing people give you cliche advice can make you angry. I used to get so annoyed with the advice I got because I knew the people giving it just didn't understand what it was like.

But the truth is far less seductive than the cliche stuff. The truth is you may never rid yourself of depression. It's something you live with, and it defines you. So, when you hear stories of people beating it, it definitely makes you skeptical. But I don't think people are lying about their success or don't really know what it's like. When I hear success stories, I see people who have won a particular battle in a long war, one that may never truly end.

But in the end, what other people say and do isn't the important thing. There's only what you do, and the ways you live with your depression. You can't flip a switch, and sometimes the darkness is too strong and can leave you feeling hopeless. What matters is asking yourself the right questions and figuring out why your impulse is resentment. That feeling can tell you a lot about yourself if you're willing to look. When is the first time you felt that feeling? Where were you? What happened? What did you start believing about yourself in that moment?

Those types of questions are gold for coming to terms with depression. It helps to release the pent up stuff so that when the storm hits, you aren't recoiling from past wounds.