Yes, yes I have. Also relationship related. It's easier for me in a way because my husband doesn't know I am in therapy, and I have never ever harboured any thoughts or wishes or imaginations about changing him... it is me I want to change. But since I know that my relationship is not going to change (why should it?), I rather wish I had not become aware of the things I would like to potentially get out a relationship. I keep telling myself that those things are unrealistic in any case, but my T keeps sabotaging that by asking me how I know. It's really not helpful. I mean, it's easy for him (T) because he is not the one who lives my life and makes my choices, and he has this unrealistic notion about the kind of choices that are in my power to make.

Hope is a terrible thing. I aim for resignation. And therapy is not always conducive to that.