Often abusers isolate their victims, it's the cycle of domestic violence, and that applies to children growing up in such environments as well, and I'm hoping that's not the absolute case for you here, but it sure does sound that way.

Do you have at least one good friend whose family will allow you to live with them until you're 18? If so, and since you're working, I'd advise you to contribute a portion of your earnings to household expenses to show your appreciation.

If that isn't an option, do you have at least one good friend who is also working and y'all can be roomies?

If you do get away from your family, I'd also recommend finding new counselors to assist you. A fresh start without any people involved from the past will prevent counselors enmeshed with your family from hindering your own healing & recovery process.

Also, if you do have an addiction issue, be it drugs or alcohol, join AA or NA. You'll meet some incredibly supportive people there, and one of them may just be able to provide you with shelter until you can stand on your own!

I know it may seem hopeless, but it really isn't. Sometimes it's scary as hell but we just have to go on and make that leap anyway.

The only other choice is to continue in a living hell which will slowly destroy us over time. At least by taking the leap, you have a fighting chance!

Again, I wish you the best. If the advice you're getting from current "helpers" isn't working for you, turn the page and find some that will support and advocate for you and your best interests, not your family's!

Sincerely,
Pfrog!