My therapist helped me realize that my DH was on the autism spectrum (Aspberger's) and that the way he communicates is vastly different than the way I communicate. We have some difficult times but therapy has helped me improve my outlook and understand why he is responding the way he is. Even though things initially got harder, it has gotten easier as time has gone by. For the record, DH and I were married for 5 years, divorced for 10 and back together for 4 years. It is an unusual situation.