I can relate to those of you who were called ugly in school, and I know it can be a very hard problem to solve. I, too, look back at pictures and realize that I was actually a reasonably attractive girl, but because I was painfully shy, had acne, and didn't dress in the latest styles, I was considered an easy target.
What really hurt was that my middle school guidance counselor told me (right in front of the two boys who were harassing me) that I was an easy target. For the rest of 8th grade, I got called "Target."
Op...Although some adults won't listen or will try to turn it around on you, I advise you to talk to someone in charge (principal, counselor)--or even get an intimidating family member to do it so that *someone* listens.
This doesn't always work, but my tough older sister used to come to my school when I was getting out for the day, and she'd usually corner and threaten my bullies, saying that if they so much as looked at me (her little sister) again, she was going to beat their *****. That usually worked, although violence isn't the best answer.
OP, I would have your parents talk to your teacher if your teacher refuses to change your seat. I understand that in "the real world" you will have to work with people you don't like (usually teachers give that excuse for making you work with bullies), but you can counter that excuse (if given) by saying that "in the real world" you can follow lawsuits for harassment or can quit jobs, but you can't legally quit school--and it's unreasonable to change classes, but if that's what it comes down to, do it. It's your life and your mental wellness. You don't need this, because let me tell you--I am 34 years old and thoughts of middle and high school still haunt me.
It is only recently that I look back and wish I only looked as I did then (now I'm very overweight).
Try to ignore him and realize that true beauty is on the inside. Still, it is impossible to completely ignore someone who is always harassing you, so take as much action as you can to get away from the creep.
Good luck <3
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Originally Posted by Zippo
I was called ugly a lot in school by both girls and boys. I'd walk down the hall and they'd bark at me. There was something vulnerable about me, I was shy and that made me a target, they knew I wouldn't retaliate and would probably just believe them. I'm 48 now and I've always thought I was ugly because I was too young to know otherwise then so it became part of me. I see pictures of myself as a kid now. I wasn't ugly. It's hard to be ugly. Eyes, nose, mouth, I had the required features. I was no beauty, just average, not disfigured, not obese, certainly not ugly, but I was vulnerable and sensitive and they picked up on that. I still feel ugly. These nasty morons did so much harm to me and I was too ashamed to respond. Nowadays bullying is an issue that is brought up in the media and no longer condoned and schools try to deal with it. In my day the teachers were just as bad as the kids so you wouldn't go to them. I was mercilessly bullied by two of my teachers and maybe that's where the kids picked it up from. Times are changing and schools try to help now, I've heard. Talk to a counsellor if you have one at school. I wish I could have. And I like the comment someone had to just say "Thanks for sharing" every time. Somehow it would feel better than just looking at the floor and walking away demoralized. It would have made me feel more in control.
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