I really lose it when my husband and I are watching something very nice on TV and he says something that feels judgmental or negative. I feel like it takes away from the program but what really ruins it is that I over react. I may not like him doing that but why let it bother me so much that I can not even continue watching the show. I don't like being robbed of the pleasure of us doing something fun and pleasant together. This has happened many times and I always get upset. I have talked to him about it but he doesn't even realize he is doing it. I tried tonight to get us to find a way out. Like if it happens to have a catch phrase or something to indicate no you are changing the tone here. Haven't figured out the best one yet but it may help. The worst part is I have a lot of trouble stopping being upset. The pain in me gets harder. I think there is a deep history behind this problem . Maybe, the catch phrase will help. Like look for the good!