What is the diagnosis of the person who for which entire marriage (15 years) cuts down their spouse to then, when they are feeling like less than zero, look them in the eye and say, "but I still love you", or "no one has never loved you like I do" ??? OR When we are out in public, doesn't matter where it is, I am treated like either the help, like I am an embarrassment and has to walk 5 paces away, or basically has to make it publicly known, by anyone around, that he disapproves of me. Then when we get home and there is no one else around he's pleasant. He then can't understand why I want nothing to do with him then. I am then the jerk. If someone does something nice (bakes for the office, or any other random act of kindness) , he carries on about how wonderful they are. When I do the same, he's almost angry that I was nice to anyone for anything. I could go on and on and it just continues. How could I have spent my entire adult life with someone who doesn't even like me?

This has been going on for years. I am miserable and so is he and yet I can't understand why I can't bring myself to leave.