Ah yes, now I get it. I guess it takes self-awareness on both ends. That you are aware of your own anger, that is only part of the equation. The other half of the equation is the other person's ability to be self-aware. If she is angry and is not aware of it....and therefore doesn't own up to it....that's when self-doubt sets in.....am I projecting my own anger onto her????

Do you trust her to be honest with herself, to be honest about whether or not she is angry at you?

About the other person not liking you....it could be a reality, and it could be a projection of yourself not liking yourself. Do you not like yourself?

Scratching my head.