Hey man, so I finally took the time to read your post in more detail and give it more thought.

I understand your predicament very well. This world, these days, can be quite harsh to someone who doesn't fit stereotypical images portrayed by the media. Unfortunately, there is really nothing you or I can do to change that. This condition will prevail.

So, given that we can't change how the world thinks, it follows that we need to look within ourselves to see how we can affect change in our lives. This is going to involve making compromises with ourselves. Maybe we can't be 100% true to ourselves. Maybe we can't be 100% original and authentic, because we need to adapt to the world a bit (how much is up to you), so that we are accepted.

Let's face it, it's unfortunate that we have to change who we are just because of the stereotypes, but it's either that or a lifetime of solitude. Which is better ? I think you know.

You seem to be aware that you're not in the best physical shape. What about exercise ? You mentioned some physical challenges, but are you able to do any kind of exercise ? Exercise really is a miracle drug, and can transform your life like you wouldn't believe. Not only would it improve your health, both physical and emotional, but it would also give you the confidence you feel is lacking. No need to chase after supermodel images … just enough to stay healthy and fit.

Let women see your best self. Let them see you proudly march in complete confidence and comfortable in your own skin. They will be drawn to you like iron filings to a magnet.

As for your values, esp. how to treat women, you're already in the right place, so, if you can add to that some improvement in other areas, you're gonna be Mr. Cassanova !

Give it your best shot, my man !