lilodian4ever,

I think that I can understand where you are coming from. I believe that you are saying that it would be helpful if we were to try to look at the whole picture, rather than continue to focus upon our dark experiences in life. Forgiving our abusers would be more helpful to us, as we live our lives.

It seems like what you're saying is that part of you is a bit frustrated with BPD, as we continue to complain about our pasts, as well. That you would like to see us recognize the good parts of our childhood.

I do understand that you have grown up a lot emotionally. You've come a long way, and that is wonderful! I am truly happy to hear that you have been able to do that ~ it gives me a glimmer of hope, that perhaps I will be ready to forgive someday. Some of us have been struggling for a very long time, others are relatively new to realization. Of course, there are many in the middle too. My point is: We are all on different paths in this group. I believe that we should try to support one another. In my experience, we really don't get that very often. No one listened, validated or supported us when we needed it in childhood. In my opinion, we need to change that pattern now.

I hope that you can understand what I'm trying to say. I don't hold a grudge against you. I am just doing the best that I can in life.