withit, one of the most powerful things my T said to me was that he wanted me to tell him my needs. About therapy. Was he giving me too much or too little? Did I want something different? What was it I needed and wanted? I have a hard time with this, as I am not used to telling anyone my needs, probably for fear of rejection. It was amazing to me that T actually wanted me to tell him my needs. It makes sense, I guess, because he is not a mind reader, and every client will bring different needs to therapy.

Before giving up on your T, could you talk with her about this? Maybe if you just explain what you need, she might surprise you and be able to provide it. It needn't be viewed as artificial if she begins to respond as you want her to, but perhaps simply as being responsive to your needs.

It is OK if a T makes an interpretation and it is not correct. T's do this all the time. They learn more about you by seeing your reaction to their interpretations. And next time their interpretation may be more spot on because of what they have learned from your reaction. It is also common for newer/younger T's to be more quick to dive in with their interpretations rather than asking the client, "what does it mean to you?" Maybe your T is not as experienced as your previous one. But I hope she is using every client to learn and become a better T.