I was not making accusations about your T's time.... I suppose I think in these terms due to no shows where I work. Just wished to bring it up. Given your recent exchange with him last time, you are quite aware of these things.

Maybe you need to go to couples as needed if you feel like things are going well in your communication or in doing the work you (both) feel you need to do.

How does your hubby feel about all of this....? All and this being the major words....