Sorry for a long post here...

My T was trained very much in psychoanalytic perspective although Ive asked for more practical tools for coping with my problems. She has complied and for that I'm grateful.

If I were to start over I'd avoid anything like psychodynamics or its derivatives. The sessions run the gamut of openly challenging, indirect, insinuating, and even cruel. Sometimes feeling like a rat in a maze.

We have begun to explore psychic defenses that prevent me from being "present". That is important to do. But going through conflicts with T and breaking and reconstituting the "therapeutic alliance" is painful.

Nothing about this treatment paradigm is indulgent towards the client.
Talk to others whom you know/trust (if you feel comfortable doing so) who have either been trained in this area or who have undergone treatment. Some people thrive in this paradigm but others have suffered psychic trauma. You know yourself best.

One book you might read before resuming therapy with anyone: In Session, by Deborah Lott. It poses questions to ask your T to assess their fitness to meet your needs. Good luck in your search!