I have the most beautiful 3.5 yo granddaughter and there is a great divide between us. She was our first grand-child (biological), we have two step grandsons.

When I say beautiful, even she knows she is beautiful. There is something about biracial children.

From the beginning she has not had much to do with me. As an infant she would never let me hold her for any period of time. She wanted no one other than her granny or her mother and many times, granny won out. The harder I tried to get closer the harder she tried to keep me away.

Her granny and mother constantly fall to her every whim and there is no discipline involved. Well guess what? I am the disciplinarian (or at least attempt to be), and she hates me for it.

She does not hesitate to tell me "I can do what I want and you can't stop me". Sad part is that she's right. I get no support from her mother or granny as they are too busy telling her everything is alright and babying her.

There is absolutely no respect for me when it comes to her. She walks in the door, growls as me and proceeds to go to granny, not a hello or whatever. The only time I get any attention is when she is told to come to me.

I love her to death and this is ripping me apart. I can hardly write this through the tears.

I do not know how much more I can take. Everytime she wants to come to our house, I cringe, because I know it will all end in a fight and she will go into this horrid screaming fit.