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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
I asked for support because of how difficult it was to decided to delay getting pregnant. I asked for advice on how to tell my T how much I am struggling.
How is it helpful to be told over and over again that I should not get pregnant with my fiance? All it is doing is making me feel more hopeless.
I mentioned the situation with my fiance because I was trying to express the complexity of the situation. I did not ask for advice concerning my relationship or steps I need to take to ensure a better life for a child. But I tried to gracefully accept everyone's opinion because I do understand how my relationship with my fiance raises concerns.
So I'm trying to say this in a clear, sincere way: the more I am told what a horrible monster my fiance is, how he will never change, asking if I want his DNA in my child, stating all the experiences or research or facts...the more I feel like killing myself. So I respectfully ask for emotional support during this difficult time.
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Because as hard as it is now, it will be so much harder when you are trying to protect your child.
My soon to be ex is a good guy too - not a monster, just a man who has been badly hurt by life and is not able to face himself and what was done to him. I care about him deeply. I spent years doing my best to be there for him. I know he can change. I know he has potential. He never did though. Nothing I could ever do will help him. Except maybe walk away and let him be responsible for himself.
I'm sorry SP. I wish there was something more supportive I could say but the truth is people (including CPS and the legal system) have very little sympathy for moms who will not or cannot recognize the reality of an abusive situation.