I am so sorry. I am also sorry if this comes out the wrong way, but you have to take care of yourself and not worry about him. No one knows the whole story but the two of you. If he gave you several different reasons 'why' and then got an apartment without telling you and invited your roommates to join him - let him go. If you feel you need counseling - seek it. But only for you. At the very least give yourself time to breathe and think about what you want without his influence. Do you feel like he is being honest in seeing a counselor or just saying that to appease you? Take it from a woman who should have run a long time ago - if it feels wrong, it is wrong. I believed the lies because I wanted to believe him. As I look back I always knew he was full of it. I lost 20 years because I wanted it to be right. Don't give up another week of your life to someone if it doesn't feel right. Why does he think he has the right to decide how you live? You roommates agreed to this? How awful. Why does he get to decide your timeline? Decide for yourself!!!!! I cannot stress that enough..I have a husband who thinks he has the right to tell me what my new years resolution should be! And it started by him telling me how things were going to go....please please don't let him do that!