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Originally Posted by Mefisto
Maybe not all of them are shallow, but 99% of women need quality sex. You love your guy, despite the premature issue, and i admire you for that. But majority of girls would dump that kind of a guy in a second, when they getting to know some high-testosterone beast, who can have sex with them for hours and make them have one orgasm after another, few times at day, because its much more satisfying. Its a sad fact. I feel like a failure because i can't offer anything like that. Why bother with sex therapist and stuff, if a girl is attractive and can find 10 other guys who will be obviously better in bed than current boyfriend?
Thank you for the words. I find it hard to believe, but i will try to convince myself.
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I don't think you can claim anyone "needs" anything other than food, water, and oxygen as no one (that I know of) has died because of lack of "quality sex". I put that in quotations because everyone's idea of "quality sex" is wildly different. My idea of quality sex is something that doesn't hurt me psychologically or physically, and if it can bring me the slightest bit of pleasure, then it's amazing! I would love to be able to say that having an orgasm (ever) would be part of that definition, but to raise my standards to that level would be to say that I have never had quality sex and may very well never have quality sex. No matter who my partner is.
Also, not all women actually want someone who lasts a really long time. I wouldn't be able to give my partner a blow job if he lasted very long because it hurts my jaw too much. And if my jaw starts hurting, then it's not quality sex for me. It would be nice if he could consistently last a couple of minutes when it comes to intercourse, but I don't think I would enjoy having to wait ten minutes or more for him to finish. I don't feel much during intercourse anyway and I would just be bored if it lasted that long. Just at the moment it's not lasting long enough for me to get over the pain or to feel any sort of enjoyment.
I suppose it also makes a difference that despite how attractive I am (and I am very attractive, thank you), I don't have 10 guys lined up to get in my pants. I've never had that…I've rarely had men attracted to me at all, so this notion that someone attractive can easily find all these other guys isn't necessarily true. Honestly, he has little to no competition, but even if he did, why would I run off with someone else? One, I committed to a relationship with him and two, I wouldn't be convinced that sex with anyone else would be any better, no matter how many "skills" they apparently have. And for a guy who has had a pretty easy time pleasing women, he wouldn't have the patience to deal with me. I imagine he would be visibly angry and frustrated that I couldn't have an orgasm in the first or second go (I mean, how DARE I, right?) and would just make me feel badly about it. And that would be psychologically harmful to me.
In other words, a high-testosterone beast (in your words) would not be able to give me more satisfying sex than the person I'm with now even with all his sexual dysfunction. There are billions of people in the world—I can't be THAT unique.