</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
ashley23 said:
No I dont think it was used as a coping mechanism for him, as it started from when he was very very young and he didn't learn about what happened til later.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">

That is how most coping mechanisms develop - you don't know how or why you just do them...

</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
ashley23 said: ]I'm just very curious to know if there is something maybe wrong with him.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">

I think it is safe to say something is going on and professional assessment would be the next step...

</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
ashley23 said:Im very close to his wife

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">

I'm not sure this explains how you fit into the picture. I'm glad someone is concerned...

</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
ashley23 said:
and shes about to leave him unless it's some kind of medical problem that he may be able to go get help for.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">

Is this something she is telling you or your brother in law is telling you this. I'm still confused...

</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
ashley23 said:They dont have insurance so testing is kind of out of the question.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> This is the answer so it can't be out of the question - Assuming your brother-in-law wants help - find him some or pay for some.

I don't want to sound harsh...and I'm sorry if I have been.