Im a little bit more settled but things still aren't great.

To remind, I have a married female friend, I'll call her Ann, she's a little all over the place, BFF one minute, talks like they've known you their entire life, then looking down their nose the next, flirty next, ignoring you etc and so on and so forth.

Well, sorry I put so many noses out of joint last time. But quite frankly, you feel in your gut when something doesn't sit well, and the things that were being said, I don't think are very respectful of her.

I guess to give you some background to me, I've just started to read a book on Charisma and Confidence. It's a great book, and talks about neutralising negativity, rewriting reality, transferring ownership of a problem, of an unknown onto someone or something else. I guess unknowingly, that's what I've been doing. I don't want to believe the worst, I want to believe the best. I don't want to bear a grudge. Bite me for seeing the good.

Im glad I didn't jump to conclusions, because, my friend has actually been "alright". Im going to rule out any flirtyness or attraction. The sly touches she gives me, I noted that she does the same thing with others, from time to time, very randomly, covertly, subtly. It's so subtle and covert it's like she's embarrassed or doesn't want anyone else to know. But, now I know her behaviour, I can rule that out.

I don't think she is so much of a friend, as just being friendly. She isn't flat out ignoring me anymore, so, good, but Im going to say she's not really making any effort. As much as I say Im going to leave her to it and leave it up to her to make the effort, I can't help being nice and polite and thanking people when they do me a good turn.

This is now where I have trouble explaining. I've been talking with someone else after the group and there's been a couple of times Ann has walked backwards and forwards past me - stirring the feeling that she wants attention, she wants to get noticed. She's greeted me directly to say Bye and to say she'll see me next time. But quite frankly, saying Bye and replying to texts isn't really the kind of friendship Im looking for. Im looking for a bit more consistent, two way traffic. It needs to be more sustained.

I was stood next to Ann a few weeks ago wanting to talk her, but she was busy talking to someone else. I didn't interrupt and waiting for to finish and she flat out ignored me until I called her name.

One time I was talking to another friend and Ann swooped in out of nowhere, wished me luck for something I was doing next week that she had seen on Facebook but not commented on, and then says Bye. A friend of mine had witnessed the whole thing, noted Ann was looking miserable than swooped in right next to me with a beaming smile, really happy with a sort of over familiar look.

Absolutely perfect way of describing it. I thought I was going mad.

With my other friends, we build on the relationship and things grow from there. With Ann though, it's been stop start stop start back to square one. It always feels like it goes back to square one. Ann coming up to me wishing me luck, probably describes best what Im after here in terms of friendship, a good display of the two way traffic. Genuine friendly concern and interaction. But it's so disjointed that Im having a hard time trying to turn it into anything else. It feels fake.

Anyone who says we're friends really, "oh Hi, Bye, see you next week, good luck" then doesn't back it up....

Well. Get knotted. You would have had the best friend in me, selfless, loyal, do anything for anyone. You've had your chance. Now prove yourself.