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Old Dec 28, 2014, 12:26 PM
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Originally Posted by lolagrace View Post
Not sure "indulgent" would be a good idea in a therapist--not for me anyway; indulgent implies allowing client to continue on with unhealthy behaviors, but that may just be my take on the connotation of the word.
I have a different understanding of indulgent than the one described here. My reaction to indulgent is that it is a paternalistic attitude or condescending stance for someone to take towards another. But since I don't go to the therapist to have them let me continue or not continue in my behaviors (none of their business for me unless I specifically ask them about it - which I never do), I would not see it as a therapist allowing me to continue. I don't think of a therapist as allowing me or forbidding me to do anything.
I find it very interesting to see how we all respond differently to these things.
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