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Originally Posted by stopdog
I have a different understanding of indulgent than the one described here. My reaction to indulgent is that it is a paternalistic attitude or condescending stance for someone to take towards another. But since I don't go to the therapist to have them let me continue or not continue in my behaviors (none of their business for me unless I specifically ask them about it - which I never do), I would not see it as a therapist allowing me to continue. I don't think of a therapist as allowing me or forbidding me to do anything.
I find it very interesting to see how we all respond differently to these things.
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I had that connotation in my mind too with the word "indulgent". Just rubs me the wrong way, but connotations are a very individual thing, so the OP may not have either of our takes on the word in her mind at all. She may just define "indulgent" as kind and supportive.
I don't see therapists as "allowing" or "forbidding" me to do anything either; you may misunderstand me there. I DO see a therapist as helping me see what I do if it is unhealthy and helping me direct myself toward healthier ways of living. Again -- connotations.