If there's something I want to know about my T, I simply ask her. So far, she has always answered my questions. The kinds of questions I ask pertain to the topics we are discussing, so my questions make sense in context and help me to have an authentic and trusting relationship with her. For instance, we have talked a lot about relationships and dating, so I asked about her relationship history/status. She had no problem telling me, and I find it helpful to know "who" I am choosing to discuss relationships with and how her own experiences might impact the way she is relating to me and my experiences.