Hey everyone,
My boyfriend and I have been together almost four years. He recently got a job working every night past midnight, and I never see him. We live separately, but we would frequently spend nights at each others' places. Now that situation has changed, and it's impossible to do that now. We try to see each other during the day several times a week, but it isn't the same. I get extremely lonely and depressed without him in the evenings/at night. I've always had graphic nightmares (that's another issue), and they've gotten worse since we've started seeing each other less. I can't sleep. My insomnia has gotten really bad. I know this isn't healthy, and I know it isn't fair to rely on his presence to help with the nightmares and loneliness. I feel like this is an issue I need to deal with on my own. Can anyone help me? I feel like someone is ripping my heart out of my chest each night I'm without him. I don't want to be that obsessive, clingy girlfriend, and I don't know how to manage these emotions.